Edit: I can’t believe I wrote this over a year ago and never shared it! Hope you enjoy!
Today during a conversation with my 8 year old I said that I had 12 years experience as a mother. I then said, that seems like such a small amount for having so many kids, I feel like I have more. Since she’s wise beyond her years she told me that I have 12 years experience with her brother, 8 years experience with her, 4 years experience with her sister, and almost one year experience with the baby. That’s 25 years and that’s not even counting my years as a stepmother. This sounds far more accurate to me lol.
Sometimes, I think back to those early years when I had my first child. I was honestly just trying to survive motherhood, having a job, gossipy assholes who constantly judged me, and practically zero help from my husband. My son had asthma and was sick a lot. I remember staying up with him all night without a wink of sleep and then going to work the next morning. I really tried to be a good mom in those days, and I’m sure on many days I succeeded. But when you’re in survival mode as I was, it’s almost impossible. I often took out my frustration by yelling at my child when he “misbehaved’- aka was just being a kid who was learning.
As life went on and those difficult days are behind me, my shame and disappointment in myself lead me to have a passion for positive parenting. I decided I didn’t want to just be a good mom, I wanted to be a great mom.
Over the years, I’ve read all the books, took the time to find the right pediatrician for my kids, made sure they we’re succeeding in school, made healthy meals, helped them with their extra curricular activities, and so on. And while that’s awesome, I’ve learned that being a great mom isn’t necessarily about that stuff. Great moms have that special something, a secret ingredient list, and I’m about to share one with you!
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made many, many mistakes, and there will always be something new to learn. The catch is that no one can be a great mom every day, we have our own personal struggles and goals and joys and responsibilities that we also have to put our energy into. That’s why the best part of this list is that many of the tips are super simple.
I know you are the perfect mother for your child!
10 Ways To Be An Awesome Mom!
- Start each day with a smile and a positive sentence, and end it that way too.
- SLOW. THE. FUCK. DOWN.
- Stop taking your anger out on your children and learn to manage your emotions.
- Learn positive discipline techniques.
- Be the person you want them to be when they grow up.
- Encourage their interests.
- Let life be the consequence.
- Be present and have fun with them.
- Take care of yourself so they don’t have to take care of you.
- Learn to love them for who they are and not who you want them to be.
So there you have it. My Top 10 Tips On Being An Awesome Mom! What are yours? Let me know in the comments!
WIth much love and encouragement, LC Venegas xoxo