|Art night with the kids. I attempted to recreate an art piece I saw at Goodwill that I had wanted to buy but didn’t. Art is so therapeutic.|
Hello Gorgeous One😍. Hope you’ve found your day inspirational! So anyway, I’ve had the idea for this post for awhile but the words just hadn’t come to me till now. As with all things written here, this post stems from my own experience. I know how it feels to need to lean on someone and it seems like the one person who you should be able to depend on isn’t there for you. Now don’t get too excited because if you’re on the verge of divorce, this isn’t going to save your marriage or anything like that. Maybe your partner is a total dip shit, or maybe they’re just stressed because they had a death in the family. Either way, while this isn’t going to change who they are, it WILL make you feel better. So here goes. Oh and don’t worry, I’m not gonna start telling you to ask yourself “What am I doing to contribute to the situation” and all that crap that dumbass marriage therapists like to say. Next I’ll be telling you to practice “I feel statements” in the mirror, LMAO. Oh if you’re a marriage therapist, Just kidding… to everyone else (not really kidding). As a co-dependent I’m like that little kid thinking that the parents divorce was their fault and if only I behaved better or done something right, we wouldn’t be in this situation, then tries to grasp desperately at any kind of control they can get. I sound crazy right? Yeah, life of a co-dependent. All I’ve done most of my life is blame myself so I’m not into telling others to do that. I know how much it hurts. I do believe in taking responsibility for our actions but that’s another post. Soooo to get down to it here is what you need to ask yourself, ready for it??
What have you done for YOURSELF lately??
|A reminder to do something fun, from one of my journals.|
|I bought these chocolates as a gift to myself for after I give birth. They are currently in my hospital bag.|
and I thought about some simple things I could do, as a woman about to give birth, just to nurture my body and soul. Things from purchasing things to make me feel beautiful, like perfume and body oil, to fixing my laptop so I could write more was on that list. I immediately booked a date with a friend I’ve been wanting to hang with. Spent some time with my parents and had my dad chauffeur me to the fanciest chocolate shop in town. It’s actually amazing how many marital problems seem to dissipate when I choose to take care of myself first and not everyone else. Then I’m not waiting for my husband to take care of me either. This actually has the added bonus of him acting more loving towards me. If there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that often times a man will treat a woman pretty equally to how she treats herself, so let that be a lesson to you. Believe me, dissecting relationship issues is my hobby, I actually research this stuff, (seriously). Await my relationship coaching days, soon to come😉 lol (most likely, again, seriously).